One thing people always associate June with is weddings. I know many, many people who have chosen the month of June. Usually the month is beautiful weather for outdoor weddings and its a time when school is usually out so everyone is free to travel around the country to attend a family or friends special day.
I have posted many times, I believe about marriage in general and my own. My hubby and I will soon celebrate 32 years. To some our blueprint is unique in many ways. I have often said I compare ours to military wives, he is fighting on the road of life and not true combat and although I do not move around, he is gone at long periods of time.
I will start by saying, no marriage is 100 percent perfect! Those of you who are or have been married already probably knew that. If anyone tells you they have a totally perfect marriage, they are not only fooling you but themselves.
Marriage is hard. It is a lifetime commitment. It is a constant work in progress. It is 100/100 by each person. Everyone has their own model of a good marriage. We were both born at a time when families were usually two parent families. I can't speak for David but I really only remember having one friend who had parents who were divorced.
Both of us came from completely different family dynamics. I was biologically born to unwed parents. I was adopted at birth. My biological mother was married multiple times, my adoptive father was married multiple times. Although my adoptive parents were married 47 years they created some interesting situations during my lifetime.
Now David's parents on the other hand have been married almost 66 years and although I have only known them for the time I have been married to their son, I don't think I have ever really observed them other than a completely loving couple. They probably have had many instances where they didn't agree with each other but overall one could not live without the other. As they have gotten older I have seen that the for better or worse has been tested to extremes.
Recently I came across a short video on Facebook on "How to Make A Relationship Last 25+ years". by David Wolfe. It hits on many true points that most marriages and relationships should or probably do follow. I connected with many of them, of course the "skating" couple caught my eye immediately with"always support each other no matter what". During my figure skating days David was won of my greatest supporters along with the kids when they were growing up. It was especially fun during our "team travel" days. He managed to capture several interesting videos that I wish I still had.
For those who are thinking about getting married, think long, hard and put all your efforts into the processes before you tie the knot. Marriage should never be taken lightly and or for granted at all. The one moment you start forgetting your to do list of marriage is when problems start creeping up. Mark my word it will happen at least once in the marriage.
My advice for those who are having a rough patch. Go through all available avenues to repair the patches. Exhaust them all before making the decision that the road you paved together is no longer the road you want to travel down together.
I hope those couples lately that I do know are able to find what they need to continue on. If not well you are the writer to the end or the beginning of that story yourselves.
