This weekend I attended two anniversary celebrations. My in-laws celebrated 60 years of marriage. Wow!! Hard to put your head around that sometimes. The last few years have been tough for our family but it is always so touching when we visit them that they still keep the spark going even after all the bumps in the road. I love to hear the story of how they met at the wrestling match in town. They both had come with other people but left with each other and have been together ever since. They both were hard working people, raised four boys and have 12 grandchildren and 10+ great-grand children. They always seem to overlook the little issues with each other and just enjoy their life together.
The other couple's party I attended have been married 40 years. They have also had their share of rough times but they still continue to plug along.
When people ask me how David and I have managed to stay married sometimes I really have to stop and think what we have done to keep it together. It has not been easy, we have had our share of rough patches like everyone else. But I always think back to the first time I saw him and it truly was one of those moments when we both did a double take and somehow it clicked. Although we have spent alot of our marriage apart because of his work I think over the years that probably just works for us. No it didn't at first I can remember when the kids were little we would all stand at the door with tears in our eyes saying "do you have to leave". I admit it is by no means easy to see him leave each trip but, it's his job, how he makes his living and I just deal the best I can.
Our 26th anniversary is approaching in a few months, I hope we can get to 50 years, with luck and hard work we will. It's a full-time commitment and not a walk in the park, he is my ying, and I am his yang and I wouldn't have it any other way.
People ask "What is the secret to a good marriage?"It really isn't a secret. Everyone has their own way of making it work. Sometimes I think couples today think it's a walk in the park or when it does get hard they don't try and iron out their problems. It is like anything else we do today, you work hard, you have the good and the bad and you go on. Things change, people change you either change with the tide or move on. Their is a reason why you pick each other and through the years certain things do change but always go back to what first brought you together and work toward that throughout marriage.
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Congratulations to all who are celebrating anniversaries!
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